"Marriage hunting" Now it's a normal word, however when I was twenty, there was no such word.
For Marriage (in the case of heterosexual marriage at that time), it was going to come somehow, and we was able to get married somehow.
"Somehow" may be an overstatement.
Still, in a world where there is no concept of "not getting married", marriage was not an "object" of our activities.
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When I was in high school, I had a strong self-consciousness that "I can't get married unless I move on my own".
I don't know how others think, however I thought that "marriage will fall from heaven" would never be the case for me.
Well, anyway, according to the results, my self-evaluation is correct. And at the end of the unsightly days I took enough time. Finally, I was able to finish "I can't do it".
So-called, I was accepted my propose with crawling on the ground, rubbing mud, throwing self-esteem and humiliating like licking her legs.
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One day, when I looked around me, I was stunned by the number of people who were "not married".
In fact, they have an educational background, intelligence, generally looks good, income is enough. If only the requirements are lined up, from the common sense of those days, I think that each of them was a person who could get married.
The only thing they didn't have a self-consciousness of "I can't get married unless I move on my own".
And they shared in common that they believe that marriage is coming from heaven
"It is going to be just fine for me"
Just like "test", "entrance exam", "employment" and "work", "marriage" is going to be just fine.
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They could not notice, or could notice too late
Only "marriage" is different from "test", "entrance exam", "employment" and "work", and even "love" is decisively different.
That's what I can think so.