Nowadays, I call myself a "solitary engineer", but not so long ago, I was doing what is now called "sociable"

I've been thinking about this as I reread my diary, which I used to write in the past.

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I used to be the head of the tennis club at the laboratory, or rather, I was "made" to be the head of the tennis club.

So, the head of the tennis club was embarrassed that his 'service didn't go into the opponent's court,' so he went to tennis school.

There was a disgraceful rumor going around that "Ebata was groping girls at the tennis school".

Ebata: "No way. I don't see anything but tennis balls in the school."

I denied the rumors.

In fact, I was the one who took my lessons seriously, and since I belonged to an advanced class, there were very few "so-called 'girls'".

There were "women who were serious about tennis", but they were a different kind of people from the "so-called 'girls'".

And It turned into a disgraceful rumor:

"Ebata is groping middle-aged people with daughters or granddaughters of the right age at the tennis school.

Well, that's beside the point.

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As a matter of fact, I think that the effectiveness of "marriage apps" are less than

- Lessons such as tennis school and English conversation classes

- Participation in neighborhood association events and volunteer activities

- Visiting grandmothers and grandfathers in aged care facilities, etc.

These indirect approaches seem to have a higher success rate.

This is because it is not the "system" that evaluates you, but "human being".

Therefore, what is important here is to do these things with "no ulterior motive" and with "genuine interest".

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Approaches designed to "meet" girls fail at a much higher rate.

We elderly people are trained to recognize such people.