With telecommuting during the Corona disaster, workers are now often at home all day.

According to my wife, many wives say, 'I can't stand the fact that my husband wears their jersey all day long in the house'.

Ebata: "I think jerseys are excellent, highly functional garments"

Wife: "So, if I asked you to wear a jersey all day, would you resist?"

I gave her an immediate answer.

Ebata: "Not even a millimeter. It's more like a welcome. I don't understand the psychology behind your dislike of it."

Wife: "Then Can I wear my bloomer all day during housework"

Ebata: "I absolutely hate that. I want you to give me a break. But are jerseys and bloomers concepts that can be exchanged equivalently?"

Wife: "I think they're both the same in the sense that they're not everyday garments."

My wife said that if we are talking about "equivalent exchange," then a couple who wears jerseys and bloomers as loungewear can only have "mutual acceptance" or "mutual rejection.

Ebata: "No, I think there's an incomparable difference in the sense of the extraordinary between 'the daily wear of bloomers' and 'the daily wear of jerseys.

Wife: "For me, it's 'equally repellent extraordinary'"

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Both My wife and I know that this discussion cannot be solved by logic.

This is because it is a matter of sensitivity.

However, even differences in sensitivity can be recognized relative to each other.

I feel that bloomers are overwhelmingly unusual, while my wife feels that bloomers and jerseys are equally unusual and repellent.

"The subject who determines the ordinary and the extraordinary is not myself, but others"

On that one point, we come to an agreement, so we do not wear clothes or decorations that are beyond our mutual acceptance.

I mean, I'm not interested in my wife's clothes (except for very unusual matters such as "daily wearing of bloomers").

As a result, my wife just makes a one-sided complaint (demand) about my clothes.

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Wife:"I cannot stand 'long men's underpants'"

Ebata: "My grandpa (father) used to wear 'long men's underpants' as his loungewear.

Wife: "Grandpa is O.K."

Ebata: "Hey! There's a subject-specific standard coming in for "unusual."

Wife: "That's why 'extraordinary' can't be verbalized."

Ebata: "I know that, but we are going to try to verbalize it and make an effort to get closer, even if it's only by 1mm.